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The 5-step life reset process

by Sam Makhoul 13 minute read

After identifying why you may need a life reset in 2024, Sam Makhoul outlines how you actually do it.

In my last piece, I covered the four signs you need to do a life reset. In this article I am going to go through how to perform a life reset.

To initiate a life reset, you must first acknowledge which of the negative mindsets you are experiencing. Recognising your current state is the crucial starting point. It provides clarity about what needs to change and where you need to focus your efforts.

“You cannot manifest the life of your dreams if you have not healed the past and in love with the present.”


Step 1: Prioritising your health

The first step in a life reset focuses on your physical wellbeing. It’s essential to recalibrate your body chemistry, especially if you’ve fallen into the negative mindset of feeling overwhelmed. This mindset can disrupt your body chemistry, replacing feel-good hormones like serotonin and dopamine with stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline.

To reset your physical state, you need to implement a new morning and nightly routine.

In the morning:

  1. Start by smiling as soon as you wake up, which sets a positive tone for the day.
  2. Spend a few minutes in bed stretching and waking slowly.
  3. Splash your face with cold water or, better still, have a cold shower.
  4. Go outside. If possible, stand on grass, and face the morning sun with eyes closed and engage in deep breathing exercise. Try the Wim Hof method or simply breathing in for 4 counts, hold for 7 seconds and breathe out for 8 counts, approximately.
  5. Get moving with a long walk or cycle or swim. You need to get into a moderate cardio state where you are sweating.
  6. Meditate for a few minutes.
  7. Journal to organise your thoughts and tasks for the day.

Your nightly routine:

  1. Exercise before you eat dinner. Aim for a mild cardio state.
  2. Eat before dark.
  3. Eat lightly and avoid sugar and processed carbs.
  4. Avoid all technology and artificial light at least one hour before bedtime.
  5. Meditate
  6. Journal. How did you feel about what happened in your day. Are there are hurt feelings you need to process?
  7. Take a warm bath
  8. Avoid watching or talking about the news before bed

Step 2: Setting boundaries with people

The second step of the life reset process is about setting boundaries with people in your life. It's essential to stop doing things you don't like just to please others. You need to especially avoid spending time with people who are toxic. These kinds of toxic relationships can be subtle.

To identify toxic individuals, remember they could be

  • Jealous or envious of you,
  • Competitive with you,
  • Betray your trust,
  • Focus on your faults
  • Are self-entitled and self-absorbed, or
  • only reach out when they need something.

Setting boundaries might be challenging, but it's necessary for your well-being. Remember, nobody is worth compromising your health and happiness for, not even your family, friends, and not even your partner.

Step 3: Heal the past

In the third step, it's crucial to acknowledge and respect your past. Don't dwell on past regrets or hold onto hurts. Recognize what's been holding you back, whether it's past traumas, addictions, emotional baggage, or limiting beliefs. Acknowledging these issues is the first step towards healing. If these issues stop you from functioning day to day, you need to see a trained therapist.

Step 4: Gratitude for the present

Step four involves feeling gratitude for your current life and past achievements. It's easy to focus on what has gone wrong, but by recognizing your past accomplishments, you can start feeling grateful for what has gone right. Write down all your achievements, big and small, and express thanks for the person you've become and what you've achieved.

Even in your darkest days, there are things to be grateful for, such as your ability to experience life, taste, touch, see, and be alive in a safe and peaceful country. Feel gratitude for these blessings and for everyday blessings like a simple cup of coffee or the warmth of the sun on your skin.

Step 5: Focus on the future

In the fifth and final step, focus on your future by setting new goals in the eight areas of life. These areas are health, love, family, work, friendship, learning, wealth, and charity. Write down specific and exciting goals in each area. Exciting goals create passion, which can help you overcome setbacks and maintain high energy levels.

After you write each of these goals, rate your excitement for each on a scale of 1-10. Anything below 9 should be deleted from your list. Don’t share your goals with anyone other than the closest people; like your partner or your parents or very close friends.

Take action

As you work through these five steps, you'll be well on your way to performing a successful life reset. Each step contributes to your overall well-being and personal growth, making it a valuable life skill that you can use time and time again. Remember, the past is behind you, and every morning is a new opportunity to hit the reset button and start a new life by changing your routine and your mindset. Live consciously and live the life you deserve.

Now put your plan into action. Start making changes in your life that align with your goals. As you progress, continuously assess your actions and their results. If you encounter setbacks or challenges, adapt your approach, and keep moving forward. A life reset is an ongoing process, and adjustments are a natural part of the journey.

In conclusion, breaking free from negative mindsets is not only possible but also essential for leading a fulfilling life. By recognising the signs and reasons behind feeling overwhelmed, lost, stale, or stuck, you can take control of your life and embark on a transformative journey. The five-step life reset process empowers you to acknowledge your current state, identify root causes, set inspiring goals, create an action plan, and implement changes. Remember, life is too short to settle for mediocrity, so take the reins and start living your best life today.

Sam Makhoul is the managing director of MSA National and podcaster of “A Higher Branch” Podcast on Apple, Spotify, and YouTube.

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